DO THIS MOST OF THE TIME – Tips to organise your day

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  • What you should do all day
  • Tips to prioritize your day
  • How to spend your time productively

Holla if you’ve heard this before: “Find out your weaknesses and make them your strengths. You need to balance your skills so, in the end, you are good in everything.” Well, I believe this is NOT the way you should live your life. Especially when you think about the time you have in a day.

I’ve been struggling a lot to understand how I should prioritize my day to get the most out of it. Especially when I was doing things that didn’t come naturally to me, I often felt exhausted and defeated.
Focusing on your weaknesses kills your energy!

In our new episode, I’ll give you the 5min fix on how to my should actually spend your day.

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What is YOUR strength that you should spend all day developing?

 

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What most say how you should spend your day, is not true. Let’s explore what you ACTUALLY should do most of the time.

Create Content Without Showing Your Face – MODEST BRANDING

Hijabi woman in business, Muslim woman creating content without showing her face

Way too often we forget that we have power. Not through money, status or other physical things. But through our voice.

Is it modest to speak up? To raise my voice? To be truthful and go against what society expects me to believe? To talk about taboos? To share my journey through the lows just as through the highs? How can I gain momentum without compromising my values? Do I want people to know that it’s ME behind this brand?

All this and more went through my head when I started to build a personal brand while trying to navigate my female Muslim identity in business.

What I’ve learned: Use your voice. SPEAK UP. Share your diversity.
There are so many different ways to create content which don’t include your presenting your beauty (as society experts) revealing your name or even showing your face!

However you might define the term “modest”, we have all at some point negotiated whether we should show ourselves on camera or on photos.

In this video, I show you the most effective content forms to create a brand without being on camera. Let me know in the comments whether you would like more videos on “Modest Branding”, inshallah.

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What is the content form you want to create with?

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How can I create a personal brand AND be modest? I was negotiating for a long time whether I want people to know my name or see my face when I create content. But nevertheless, I was trying to build a strong personal brand. So how can YOU create content without showing your face? Stay true to your values and speak up. Share your diversity.

Modest Networking – How to network effectively as a Muslim woman

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You want to find a fitting mentor, get in touch with the best collaborators or be confident to connect on networking events:

I’ve put together a quick guide for you to keep your values and convince people of your talents. This is made for you especially sister! The episode will make you understand how to network effectively while keeping your modesty, communicating confidently and leaving a positive impression on anyone you meet.

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1. Which rule can you most identify with and why?
2. What are the top 3 skills you think one should have when practising modest networking?

How to practice modest networking

A lot of times I’ve been asked how I behave in situations where I want to establish business relationships, connect to other creators to collaborate, or gain contact to business leaders.

You will hear me saying this at the beginning of this episode – you need to grab one book that will change the way you interact with people. This book has the most horrible title in the world, while it is one of the most sold books in the world. The first time I got aware of it, was in 7th grade when I saw my brother reading it and you bet me I mocked him (must have been the worst little sister you can imagine). Now, I review it yearly to remind myself how to build long-lasting relationships of any kind.

The book is (and I still have the scrappy old version from 7th grade) “How to win friends and influence people”. It’s been a book that surprised me in every single way, one because it has stories from multiple historic people in it – from Theodore Roosevelt, Charles Dickens to Steve Wonder and many more – the book’s from 1937 but was updated regularly.

It shows you very diverse business situations, in which great leaders connected to people. And here are some of the techniques you can apply to your life (mixed with some personal accounts of my female Muslim 21st-century experience):

Be genuinely interested

What does this mean “genuinely”? Well, I can tell you what it doesn’t mean: it doesn’t mean acting fake and asking a question only to be able to answer it yourself. Like, what business are you in? Because you know I’m running this company that is doing blablabla. Or asking, so how was your last job? Because mine was horrendous, can’t believe I took so long to decide to leave blablabla.

Nope.

It’s about asking people questions that they wouldn’t expect from you. Questions that are purely about them. But that is still relevant to professional interaction.

  • Why did you navigate into this job?
  • What was your experience in this field until now?
  • Are you struggling with this issue that is recently relevant in your industry?
  • Where would you like to transition into and why?
  • I can see you are very passionate about XY, what do you think drew you to do this particular project?
  • what inspired you to create this business?

Ask questions, that they usually don’t expect people to ask, and be curious about what viewpoints they have on things. It really doesn’t matter if it really is your goal to speak about this particular topic, but trust me.

If you show genuine interest in people, they will show genuine interest in you.

Compliment

Being human, we have several blessing and several imperfections we face in our daily lives. One of them is our ego. We loooove to expand our egos, especially towards others we meet the first time.

Being human, we must learn how to take advantage of our knowledge, one being that we are all most interested in talking about ourselves. So how can we invert this knowledge for the purpose of networking? We think about how we can make others talk about themselves, how can we make them expand their s, and not even let them do it, but encourage it?

You’re dealing with humans. We, humans, love our egos. So get people to talk about themselves. You’ll win.

Compliments.

And not the cheap ones like, Aw I love your shoes (although that still works among us women) but try to dig deeper:

Talk about the strengths of the person you meet, admire their attitudes like confidence, positive energy. Ask them about what they love and what they’ve accomplished, their business (that you’ve obviously researched on), their sports (you noticed they just completed a charity marathon), a particularly interesting interview of them in a newspaper (don’t only know the prestigious name of the publisher but know what they talked about and mention it) or anything of that sort or after a talk for example, point out how they made you think more critically, or ask them about something they said in detail so they can elaborate on what they know.

Let them showcase their own accomplishments, strengths, expand their egos. Give exclusive attention to the person you are speaking with!

Have a positive attitude

We all know, we are struggling (especially in the West) in a lot of ways of establishing our full selves into work. The business field is not built to support our identities as Muslims and further as women, or people of colour. I get it, we have a lot to fight against as we go an pursue a career.

But do you really think people enjoy hearing your struggles all day? Yes, they need to know what its like in your skin, we have to raise awareness for the backlash and challenges we face regularly for things to change. But not in networking. Not if you want to create a professional connection to someone that can eventually be a part of your journey OUT OF your struggle. That can eventually be part of your victory.

Be positive. Answer in terms of challenges you face only when someone SPECIFICALLY asks you for it. But keep it short and most importantly: change the topic not to what holds you back, but what can bring you further. Talk about what you’re aiming to achieve. 

Smile, Be light and bright. Don’t you think other people have their own issues? They might have an annoying client, marriage problems or a sick mother. WE all have our battles to win. Do you think in this case, someone feels lighter and well about interacting with you if you remind him how bad you have it? NO

Even if you don’t feel like smiling. The person in front of you might go through a major crisis. They need you to smile. They need your positivity to not only feel connected to you but to always remember that you make them feel good. That you light up a stressful day or doubts, that you are the person they want to interact with to feel better and be visionary, inspired.

People like people who are positive, who smile.

A smile can change so much. You know what I mean. Be honest. You know how powerful it is. Practice honest and authentic happiness. And if you feel insecure, sad or stressed before you even enter a meeting, give yourself a fake smile. It is scientifically proven that the act of smiling releases endorphins, which gives you a feeling of joy and tricks your brain to eventually make you smile naturally.

Try it in your next conversation! While the person in front of you is speaking about something that excites them, or they find interesting, start smiling and maybe nodding (A LITTLE bit) and see how the person transforms into a smiling bubble of joy because she feels you are genuinely interested in what she says.

Of course, now we need to talk about where not to apply these rules. Namely with men.

Networking with males

Sisters, I am not telling you to avoid men 100%, it’s almost impossible in our “modern times” and especially when networking in a Non-Muslim environment.

These are really my own rules, and I know that many women out there have different ones, but these are the least I would like to give you on your way to have a thought about what kind of standards you’d like to set in your life.

Don’t target them

But don’t mix with them. What I mean with mix is, don’t seek them out of the crowd, don’t approach them yourself, especially not when they are around your age. It is different for men who might be old, let’s say about 10 years older than your dad. Then, you can actually aim to create a genuine mentor-mentee relation to them. But still, be aware to NOT apply the rules of smiling and complimenting to them AT ALL. Yes you can genuinely have a positive fae, like you would have when you school youneighbour’srs daughter in algebra, but understand the way you smile to avoid any wrong signs.

Personal details

Will come to this again in the next point but for now, the only personal detail that you might want to bring into a conversation is that you have a husband. Don’t push it into their face like, Yes so I have a husband and he is working in … NO. Let it flow in naturally like, currently I am exploring new roles in Dubai, as my husband and I will be relocating in January. Thats really the only thing to reveal, else – change the topic. No ones business what’s your personal status.

Your business is nobody’s business.

Keep it short and professional

If you talk to the male, keep it short. Don’t mumble on about personal experiences you had, don’t reveal too much of your personal situation, where you live or what you do on a daily basis. If you want to keep it professional, imagine everything to be a 100% professional. A rule of thumb: speak the way you wanted a female employee to speak to your husband. Short, straight-forward, no unnecessary storytelling and no loud laughter or excessive body expressions.

Keep your distance.

Literally, keep at least one meter between the male and you. You want to avoid (especially at events) that someone bumps into you and you get thrown at him (in a very dramatic way of saying it). You can bridge the physical distance by using your hands to talk, but don’t come physically too close to the man.

Timing.

Don’t ever reply in the evening, unless it’s an urgent email. If its a text, wait until the next day. Reply in the mornings and consider time differences. You don’t want to be in their personal space / meaning communicate with them while they are at home but always within office hours.

No WhatsApp

Another rule if possible – Take their phone numbers if you can to talk on the phone, but don’t add them into your WhatsApp. Unless you have a pure work-phone Whatsapp, then add the “office hours” in your description of your profile, so they understand it functions like any other office device. You don’t want them to feel like you are their friend they can text whenever they want.

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Be honest

A last rule I’d like you to engage with, is your level of honesty.

Compromises

We know as Muslim women in the workplace, there is always a certain type of having to defend yourself within relations to co-workers or in networking situations. We are discussing this point in our “How to find a mentor” episode, but for now circle this: Don’t you ever think of compromising high standards for anyone in business. What do I mean? Compromising on handshakes (episode), on clothing, on working within borderline-haram industries, on attending late-night meetings etc.

What always always works best is, if you clarify things from the beginning. An example: if you allow your daughter candy until she’s 10, you will find it very hard to ban sugar from your home and create a healthy food routine for her. But, if you raise her with the mindset of grabbing fruits, nuts or dates for sweets instead of candy from the beginning on, she will understand the standards you’ve set (at least for the home) and go along with your rules way easier, right?

Make things obvious from the beginning, don’t shake hands in the first meeting and then be surprised if it gets harder and harder to reject them afterwards. If you tell them in advance, they might even inform your future colleagues and you can all avoid an awkward situation. If you tell your consultants or recruiters you are not interested in promoting company projects with alcohol, underwear or violent videos games companies etc., they will look specifically for industries and companies that have high standards and you will automatically avoid a lot of negative acquaintances in your interview or career link-ups etc. If you present yourself like a person who has high standards and values, collaborators and brands will ask you to partner up because they are looking for your range of people and they will automatically pay and treat you according to how you present yourself to them.

Knowledge

Another guideline I’d  like to end up with, is your understanding of your own skills, knowledge and capabilities. We are not perfect. But when we want to leave a good impression, we always aim to at least appear to be.

Don’t

Don’t try to act that you know it all. Prepare, YES! Gain some more knowledge before you go to an event, before you meet a potential mentor, before you go to a business meeting. But understand your boundaries of knowledge.

WE said it before, your Number ONE rule is to make the other person feel important, valued and respected. That includes that you let them know how much you can learn form them. Don’t act dumb no! But understand that one of the most powerful phrases you can say is : I don’t know.

Followed by But I would love to gain your expertise. Could you tell me more about this? or I don’t know enough about this matter, but I will dig deeper and come back to you on this one.

  1. Will make the other person like an expert in this field. They will tell you what they know, so even when you go back and research yourself on this topic, you know what new things you can bring to the table.
  2. Will make the other person see your level of dedication to learn. This is one of the most powerful skills you can have as a human and that everyone who is genuine and intelligent will value in you more than anything= Your thrive to be a learning machine.

To sum up:

  • Be genuinely interested : ask questions
  • Compliment : be a good listener
  • Have a positive attitude : smile
  • Be honest

And now, I would love to hear from you:

  • Which rule can you most identify with and why?
  • What are the top 3 skills you think one should have when practicing modest networking?

Leave them down in the comments and share your diversity with us

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Muslim Business Woman skills – How to set new goals: A Simple 3 Steps Process

 

One of the most common questions I get asked is,

“Sina, how do I set goals and achieve them? Especially for a yearly plan, how can I organise my ambitions?”

Setting goals? Wondering how to organise the new year? In today’s Shared Diversity episode I’m sharing a simple 3 step process that helps me set goals for the new year (or any new phase of your life!), plus a great tool that we use in our team to make sure that we meet our visions and keep creating!

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1) Which signs have you seen on yourself?
2) Which signs do you still need to develop?

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1 Step: Goals are not visions:

There is a very big difference between goals and visions. You can set visions in the long term, but to be able to achieve success, you have to define your goals in a measurable & timely way.

2. Step: Planning & Organising:

How can you organise your goals effectively so you can avoid failing with your to-do lists and truly achieving success? Grab the guide on consuming vs creating. What content should you consume and how can you create more, continuously? Download the pdf here: https://sharediversity.com/create-vs-…

3. Step: Leadership

You have to lead yourself to success.. But more importantly, you have to lead others. Find out your strengths and capabilities by writing down what you are happy to do and what people praise you to do regularly. This way, you will gather the right people around you who will contribute to your growth.

Successful Muslim entrepreneurs give their visions a plan. How to set goals and achieve them, especially for business but generally for your life is a skill we need to master if we want to attain success as Muslims.

Success Secrets for Women- The 5 Signs of Successful Business Women

“Am I made for this?” Have you ever thought about starting a business but you didn’t really know whether you are ‘made to’ succeed in being a Business Woman? Great leaders, mentors and CEOs are all very good at having a certain intuition which talent to invest in. Somehow they know who’s going to be successful.

There’s just this “something” about them. In today’s Shared Diversity episode I’m sharing the Top 5 signs of successful businesswomen.

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1) Which signs have you seen on yourself?
2) Which signs do you still need to develop?

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1. Sign: You are obsessed to succeed

Successful businesswomen have an obsession to succeed. There are no doubts, and if they come up, they will be silenced forcefully! There are no excuses for you that you will not make it. Instead, you find all the reasons why you WILL SUCCEED.

2. Sign: You are a learning machine

Instead of thinking you “know it all”, you always find reasons to dig deeper, to learn a new skill, to gather more experts and mentors around you. A successful Muslim woman knows the first word that came down to us is ( اقرأ – Iqra ) = “read”. So you read and gain knowledge every way you choose to go.

3. Sign: You have extreme ownership

You have to read this book if you want to become a leader and therefore successful as a businesswoman. The link to the book: https://amzn.to/2VIDqhr

This book provides fundamental leadership lessons such as

  • Control your own Ego
  • Admit and own mistakes and develop a plan to overcome them, and blame no one else.
  • There are no bad teams, only bad leaders.
  • Build trust with your members.
  • As Leader, you must explain not just what to do, but WHY.
  • Find out If You don’t know.
  • Simplify the plan.
  • Lead down AND up the chain of command.
  • Discipline yourself.

4. Sign: Doer till the end

You don’t only plan but you DO. You execute your plans. And you execute them until they are finished. If you develop this strength, you can be sure to be successful in everything you set yourself up to achieve.

5. Sign: You hate to lose

You have to lead yourself to success. But more importantly, you have to lead others. Find out your strengths and capabilities by writing down what you are happy to do and what people praise you to do regularly. This way, you will gather the right people around you who will contribute to your growth. Inshallah, if you’re interested in more videos about how to set yourself up for success in business, how to focus & achieve more of what REALLY MATTERS, …

How to be successful as a Muslim woman? There are two major trades you need to work on: Hard work & Tawakkul.

How to find time for your passion project – Time Management & Side Hustle

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Have you struggled to really work on the project you love the most? To feel super productive in accomplishing the next level of your side-hustle that you aim to turn into your main hustle?

This episode will make you understand how to find time while working full-time, having a family and a job to work and advance in your passion project.

This is not a generic productivity episode, but something that will transform the way you look at every single day.

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How to find time for your passion project

Do you have a passion that you’re working on while rushing your day job? No time for your side hustle? You’d like to turn that into a real thing? But time is limited, you come home tired and can barely think straight but you really wanna make it happen?

So you’re looking to find time for your passion project in all the mess of responsibilities and duties, schedules and errands, a family that wants you to do things, and so on. Well, I have news for you.

You don’t find the time, You MAKE time.

Concentrating your focus on finding the time, will make you aware of all the things you have to do, errands and responsibilities. All the roles that you’re already playing throughout the day as a daughter, friend, employee, mother, wife or else.

You don’t find time, You MAKE time.

Concentrating your focus on making time, however, will make you aware of the breaks you have, the time you have for yourself only, these quality hours that you’re failing to use because you are – scrolling through social media, watching tv, sleeping, commuting etc.

Find the hidden time slots

You can make time by finding the hidden time slots throughout your day.

The hours in the morning you lay sleeping cause you watched Netflix last night, or the bed-scrolling through Twitter sessions before you get out of bed, or the time you spent listening to music or watching people while commuting.

That is the time you could use for

Wake up early

Lesson number one: Don’t use your phone for at least an hour after you get up (in general no internet)

There are so many benefits to waking up early. My favourite is: nobody annoys you. Nobody is up that early as you are, so you can be sure that no one wants anything from you, expect any physical or mental action from you. Nobody is there to disturb you. That’s real quality time. Yes, they might get up for fair too but how many really stay up and try to make you do things? Barely anyone. Because we all want peace in the morning.

What is great in the morning is, that your brain is fresh. Yes, you might look like mash potatoes when you get up but believe me, your thoughts are alert because no noise or conversation have polluted it.

You come with fresh ideas you have fresh visions and your energy is at its peak.

That’s why the no internet rule at least one hour after you get up because you don’t want to consume anyone’s business before you haven’t figured out your own!

Pro tip: Create before you consume (listen here)

Another benefit is your discipline.

You showing discipline in the morning and staying up despite the world still sleeping, that is going to boost your performance the entire day.

It will protect you from procrastinating because you already had that success feeling in the morning for fighting your desire to stay comfortably in your pillows and getting up to achieve things!

Now you might say there is really no way I can sleep less, I’m already exhausted enough!

Don’t get me wrong, I’m the last person to ever tell you to compromise on sleep. But what are you doing in the evenings that prevents you from getting up early?

Take an example of the Sunnah, we pray Isha we sleep and we get up and stay up for Fajr. That’s pretty straightforward and I tell you it works! You can get up to 9-10 hours sleep if you want!

But even if you don’t go all out in that, be aware of how much sleep you need (average 7 or 8 hours) and then calculate Fajr – (7 or 8) hours = what time do I need to sleep, then sleep!

Extra tip for those who say they can’t sleep that early: Stop using your phone at least an hour before you want to sleep. That screen light is not helping you to relax, what helps, however, is a warm tea, a book, playing the Quran or writing. These things relax your body and prepare you to sleep.

Use wasted time

What’s wasted time? No, I don’t mean you working on your passion project while you’re doing your day job.

That time when you

  • commute to work
  • when you have a lunch break
  • when you run errands and
  • all this other stuff that you usually use to check social media, listen to music or just get annoyed by people around you.

Use this time to visualise or consume relevant content.

When you commute, make sure you have your audiobooks ready that advance your knowledge on the subjects or you at least write down some ideas on your phone of “What’s the next steps I need to take to grow this project?” “Wow, do I schedule the next event?” “Who can I collaborate with on this project?” “What are my goals for the coming week?”.

When you have lunch, listen to that important podcast on that matter, brainstorm on the next campaign, text people that you wrote down are relevant for your project.

When you come home and clean, make dinner, run errands etc., make sure you visualise that thing you want to have and how you can attain it, catch up on more podcasts or audiobooks that help you to get more insights into the matter.

There is wasted time during your day that you can use to your advantage. #success #ShareDiversity

Give it purpose

Give your wasted time a purpose

Surah Al-Asr

وَالْعَصْ
By (the Token of) Time (through the ages),

إِنَّ الْإِنسَانَ لَفِي خُسْرٍ
Verily Man is in loss,

إِلَّا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالْحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالصَّبْرِ
Except such as have Faith, and do righteous deeds, and (join together) in the mutual teaching of Truth, and of Patience and Constancy.

The Creator of all worlds tells us that time is a great measure of one`s success or failure.

Work, don’t just visualise

There are multiple ways to work on your passion projects. It’s not only watching the “competition” and feeling discouraged by how far they already came and then procrastinating on your thoughts about how you’re failing to accomplish your goals.

It’s about being honest to yourself and writing down the actions steps you need to take to advance in your field.

Maybe you need to learn a new skill? You need to read up on a matter more. Maybe you need to just jump in and create! You wanna create a safe space for women to come together and learn a certain skill? Plan the event, find a venue, publish it on Eventbrite, tell everyone about it, partner with people who have experience, and DO IT.

There are many ways to accomplish growth for your passion project, whether you are writing articles, work on your copywrite or marketing, you create art or you do poetry. Whatever it may be, it will only grow when you engage with the idea. You don’t have to know 100% of your plan yet, but you work on it step by step. And these steps can perfectly be made while your hustling on your day job/jobs, you’re studying or having any other kind of obligations.

Understand for yourself – perfection is a myth, what counts is progress.

Perfection is a myth, what counts is progress. #progress #ShareDiversity

To recap:

  • You don’t find the time, you make time
  • Wake up early
  • Create before you consume
  • Give your wasted time a purpose
  • Baby steps are still steps
  • Progress > perfection

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How to overcome your limiting beliefs

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Thinking you aren’t worth the opportunities you are offered? Feeling you’re self-sabotaging yourself? That the things you’d think you wanted are actually not really important anymore because someone said it doesn’t matter and it’s actually bad to want it. You have a passion and imagination for a long time, but people tell you it’s impossible? You’re feeling super close to a breakthrough but suddenly you just stop and give up on your plans?

This episode will make you understand the limiting beliefs you have about topics like money, success, relationships or fame and how you can overcome them.  So take a journal and make some notes.

Because today is not the day you let your limiting beliefs win over your life.!

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How to overcome your limiting beliefs

Today I want to start with WHY. Why are we speaking about this?

Because we all can remember the last time we spoke with someone about why we cannot do something, why its tough to achieve this thing, what is holding us back from reaching that thing.

We know. We know we are sabotaging ourselves.

Our generation is a generation of resistance, of people who are aware of what forces are facing them and what barriers are keeping them from their equal opportunities.

We know, the world is not fair. But is that really relevant?

Or do these things just feed into our already existing limiting beliefs we inherited from our families, communities, the media, random people we met in our studies or work?

Don’t believe people.

We will repeat this like a mantra.

Don’t
Don’t

Believe
Believe

People
People

and the last person you should believe is your own limiting beliefs.

Yourself that has been brainwashed into thinking that “fame is bad” (because those who had it misused it), that “money is only producing problems” (because your family never had much), that “politics is bad” (because those in power oppressed), that your “faith is flawed” (because people in your faith community sinned publicly), that “marriage is a burden” (because you’ve seen the women in your family suffer from abuse), that “men are trash” (because Twitter tells you so).

Don’t believe your present status

The Prophet (SAW) never believed those who said he was delusionary, he never believed those who attacked him mentally or physically, he never believed even his family when they didn’t believe he would make it. And what resources did he have? He created a global movement out of ZERO resources but the biggest power you could ever imagine – what Allah has written for him.

If he’d think about what he had right now, he’d never have made it. Someone who couldn’t read nor write worked for a woman, no financial backing. And you think you can’t achieve it because they say you’re wearing the wrong clothes for this industry? Because you don’t have a Silicon Valley investment? Because you didn’t graduate? Because your skin colour has the wrong shade? Because it never works, I tried to be healthy but not even my parents achieved it. Because that’s just not realistic?

Listen, up

Self-pity has never lead anyone to success. Get over your weakness and amplify your strengths, your privilege.

Redefine

Redefine your beliefs. Redefine the things you have beliefs about. What does money mean to you? What does fame mean to you? What does knowledge mean to you? Success? Impact? Leadership? And what do these words mean to you? Be very clear to get your own definition of what they mean. And then write down why you will achieve it, and why not.

You don’t need to understand HOW, not yet.

Just WHY.

Is it because you do it out of the right intentions? Because it will lead you to your ultimate goal or purpose? Is it because you are able to support those you love in the process of attaining it? Is it because you will feel better, present yourself better and inspire others through your self-representation with it?

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Who do you have on your side and who’s on the opposition?

Who’s your opposition?

Does the media tell you-you can’t? Does your family tell you, your friends, your co-workers or boss? Random people, who have failed and now feel entitled to prove you the impossibility of it?

Who’s with you?

Is Allah with you?

Now weight the scale and notice what is stronger.

Yup you got it. Allah never talked about you can’t have anything. Yes but only in Akhera…. Really?

Didn’t Salomon have everything in Dunya as well? Didn’t he ask to be the richest on earth? It’s not wrong to be asking for success, for fame, for money. But understand why and how it will serve your purpose.

And don’t get me wrong, believing is not enough.

Redefine your beliefs about terms that society has falsely defined for you. Success does not have a one-size-fits-all definition!

You have to DO

You must DO something, you must engage in the activity of Change.

Change yourself. Change your behaviours. Your habits. Change.

To change your beliefs, change your behaviours and habits.

How?

Here we go practical. Get your notebook (physical or digital) and write down what we’re going to solve here:

  1. Write down your beliefs
  2. Write down the reality (what have people achieved already, past or present, abroad or local, Muslim or Non-Muslim)

= write down what you need to change to bridge the gap

Is it to get another Job, charge for your next event or increase your hourly rate to get comfortable with handling more money? Is it taking the step to use your own voice to represent your brand by public speaking, social media or other to get used to the feeling of fame and being known for your work? What is it you can do RIGHT NOW to shatter your own limiting beliefs.

Because the only person who can do that is you.

The only person who can demystify your limiting beliefs is yourself.

Musa has prayed to open his chest and give him confidence, Allah says to Mohammed (SAW) in the Quran he has already opened your heart and with every hardship come two eases.

Surah Ash-Sharh

أَلَمْ نَشْرَحْ لَكَ صَدْرَكَ
Did We not expand for you, [O Muhammad], your breast?

وَوَضَعْنَا عَنْكَ وِزْرَكَ
And We removed from you your burden

الَّذِي أَنْقَضَ ظَهْرَكَ
Which had weighed upon your back

وَرَفَعْنَا لَكَ ذِكْرَكَ
And raised high for you your repute.

فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا
For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease.

إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا
Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease.

فَإِذَا فَرَغْتَ فَانْصَبْ
So when you have finished [your duties], then stand up [for worship].

وَإِلَى رَبِّكَ فَارْغَبْ
And to your Lord direct [your] longing.

We will talk about this so many times, believe me. Because this Surah is about self-believe and confidence in yourself.

It’s amazing how Musa and Mohammed (SAW) both are asking for confidence and self-assurance, and we really think we can work without it?

Obviously, we will need a reminder of the support we receive from Allah, to continuously become better in our beliefs and the actions we take on the basis of that.

And now, I would love to hear from you:

Leave your comment:
1) 
What are your limiting beliefs?
2) How can you bridge the gap between those false believes and reality to overcome them right now?

Leave it down in the comments, and, share your diversity with us.

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