Disclaimer: This episode was a lot of fun! So be prepared to laugh inshallah!
Ikhlas Saleem is a writer, storyteller and digital media strategist, with a passion for religion, culture and education. She’s the creator of the Identity Politics Podcast.
In this episode, Ikhlas discussed with us how you can make it as a female founder starting to grow an online presence. As the founder of one of my favourite podcasts, she also shares her top tips to get into podcasting, find a co-host & build a team.
As both media marketers, founders &wives, we also talk about how to balance marriage and ambitions, and how to upgrade your productivity!
Make sure to listen till the end to find out the Top skills and attitudes to make it in digital media and reach your communities!
What are your
1. Personal ambitions for this New Year?
2. Fears, plans & visions?
Leave it down in the comments, and share your diversity with us!
Minutes of the Podcast:
Woman in Media
7:30 Building confidence & dealing with self-doubt 14:30 Quality or quantity? 16:00 Building a brand 20:00 When you don’t agree with what you said a few years ago Book recommendation – Malcolm X
Female founders / Starting a podcast 32:30 Productivity habits 39:00 How to create relevant content for your audience 44:00 Tips to start a podcast 47:00 How to choose your topics
Marriage vs ambition
54:00 How to balance being a wive and work 55:30 About responsibilities
Top skills and attitudes
01:01:01To make it in media and reach your communities
Be willing to learn, especially in digital. @i_saleem #WomeninTech #success #ShareDiversity
“Husband and wife are equal.” “Equality for unity.” “Why shouldn´t a woman be able to do the same as a man?” “A healthy relationship works on the ground of equal rights” …
The theory sounds well, practice.. naaaatsomuch.
Let´s talk about how relationships work and let´s be pragmatic about it. It´s teamwork. And how does teamwork work? Well, … Like a business.
For those with some prior business knowledge, and those without. Check the abbreviations** and turn your volume up to listen.
Relationships are like businesses
In a business, there is a CEO (the Entrepreneur)**and an MD (Managing Director)**.
Both of them work on the business (from the outside) but both have very different viewpoints on the growth of the company.
looks in the future and decides – where the business should go strategically, – what the long-term goals are and what strategic and – what creative ways they should go to achieve the shared vision.
makes sure that – there is always investment flowing into the business, so the MD can upgrade the tool efficiency and work effectiveness.
looks from the future to the present and plans – how the business should work (what the employees should do), – to achieve the goals in the present and short-term goals.
makes sure that – the business itself provides flourishing returns on such investment by upgrading the employees’ performance.
Imagine now husband and wife
Husband = CEO Wife = Manager
Read the disclaimer before you shout “Whyyyy always the man…!”
The husband goes out and sees where the family wants to be in terms of wealth (whatever this means to you individually), in terms of achievements (spiritually and charitably, academically and professionally, personally and internationally) and in terms of property (wealth and investment). While the husband goes out and brings in the investment (income) to the family (company), the wife makes sure that the family affairs (business) work efficiently and effectively and that all members of the family (employees) provide their best performance to bring the right returns (in terms of intellectual property, social achievements, etc.).
These returns can be whatever you define and value as wealthor power.
Whether this would be the status of an academically educated child, which the mother (Manager) home-schooled or tutored to excellence (invested the income in high education).
Or whether this would be a highly artistic child, which the mother supported in their projects and searched for the best art class and accompanied to galleries and poetry events and went with them to national art competitions outside of school to support the spark of interest.
Or whether that mother has invested the income to provide the best health, nutrition and physical fitness education to her children so they can perform at their best in any phase of their lives. While the father makes sure there is enough bonus to surprise her and the kids for a nice vacation to a new country so the whole family can benefit from cultural richness and diverse education to their ongoing inspiration and motivation to keep the quality of the business performance on the highest level throughout the year.
Equality vs. Teamwork
Now think, if this would be possible if husband and wife would be equal (feminism) and do the same exact things and have the same exact responsibilities.
And by the way, read the disclaimer.
Because it really does not matter whether you would like to (personally) flip around this script. Let the mother be the CEO and the father the MD. Or whether you would like to swap every 5 years. But chose your roles. Because that’s how a team works…
Disclaimer: Every couple can, of course, choose for themselves. Wanna be a CEO and invest, get money in and inspire future strategies for 5years and then swap to dedicate and manage the business internally? Go for it. Whatever fits you (as a team).
AND NOW YOU, share with us your opinion and share this conversation with a sister.
Q: How would you apply this to your life and relationship? What value can you get out of this family-business construct?
Leave your answer down in the comments, and share your diversity with us.
** Business Abbreviations CEO (=Chief Executive Officer) makes the tough decisions based on the company’s needs, values and goals, sets up a strategy for the company future and increases flows of investments into the company MD (=Managing Director) the most important working director, in charge of the way the company is managed, supervising employees performance and outcomes
Disclaimer: This is a merely personal view of an individual life. None of this is supposed to reflect or exemplify women, reverts, Muslims or even Islam. Self-identification is not to be seen in relation to a group but merely in relation to oneself. One might share this identity but must not publicly announce its speciality or an imagined community created by such. The sharing or not-sharing of identity (with ethnic, cultural, spiritual, gender-specific, nation or whatever other forms of identification) is neither good nor bad but remains personal and private to oneself. The author is voicing personal opinions and rejects any generalization or speaking-for–ization but rather aims to shed light on one of many diverse stories of one of many diverse individuals in one (or more) of many diverse contexts. Also, the author tends to create grammatically incorrect words to clarify perceived phenomena, opinions or feelings. This blog might include discriminating terms which are emotionally loaded by a long history of oppression and suffrage. Do not read this if you get offended by the cruelty of ignorance. This is still a place for peace and love, the way we all strive to live out our purpose.