Time – Setting Priorities

Time Management

How to plan your day

وَٱلْعَصْرِ
إِنَّ ٱلْإِنسَٰنَ لَفِى خُسْرٍ
إِلَّا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ وَعَمِلُوا۟ ٱلصَّٰلِحَٰتِ وَتَوَاصَوْا۟ بِٱلْحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوْا۟ بِٱلصَّبْرِ

By time, Indeed, mankind is in loss, Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience. [Surah Al-Asr]

When I talked to the girls, I was literally so surprised. We all had different approaches to handling time and our schedule. Not only different but completely opposite to each other. But, you would never know, judging from the output.

We all get things done and we all achieve success- our own version of success. Now we all might seem similar from our sex, age, clothing (from a non-Muslim perspective), but in our versions of career, success planning, our diversity is undeniable. Law, education, sales and media, no planning, planning by writing entire research papers on the bus to work, planning in the head, in a notebook tick-off, (...) up to meticulously planning every single minute of the day (me).
We all have our own version of time planning.

But what we all do share, is the understanding that (in self-development terms):

Time is precious.

More importantly, time is the most valuable thing we have in our life because we lose it every moment and we have no chance ever to gain it back.

Now again,#YOLO might not apply to us, but still. We are here in Dunya only once and we are only given one chance to prove that we are worth entering Akhira.

The moment we chose to do A and not B means:
A is more important and urgent than B
, because

We are actually at loss everytime we choose one option.

We need to understand the value that we are leaving behind not choosing the other option!

Opportunity cost

Opportunity cost (not on our own value but on our lifetime´s value) works like this:

You ask yourself
"Is the value of A exceeding the cost of not doing B?"
Because if B is so valuable, and we are paying (with the most precious currency*), then we need to know if it is worth to lose the value of B for the sake of pursuing A.
Now getting out of the abstract.

Let´s take an easy example:
It´s 4.30pm, you need to hand in a report at 8 pm.
You are behind and are stressing out on finishing the last 5 pages. You are already sitting on your laptop for 3 hours.
You told yourself you want to be healthy, fit and successful at work.
You have a time-frame of 30min.
What do you do?

Option A:  you write another page for your report
Option B:  you work out

Now both options sound reasonably important.
The report will probably determine how far you get with your goal of being "successful" at work and you are behind in your work.
Now the work itself sounds more urgent, as it has a fixed deadline.

At the same time, you want to stick to your health and fitness goals because they are important to you, but it is something you set for yourself and it has not a contract-related deadline on it.

With usual important/urgent planning tools, you would categorize

Option A: important & urgent and
Option B: important & not urgent.

But if you consider your opportunity cost, your calculation will probably look like this:

If I don´t do Option A: I have to speed up my writing process and get half a page more done within each half an hour. I will need to be 100% focused on finishing this for the rest of the time.

If I don´t do Option B: I will have less energy in my body and my back will hurt, sitting on the laptop already for 3hours and probably having to sit there the next 3.5hours more. I will get tired, my legs will feel heavy and my mind will probably get tired from staring into the screen for such a long time.

Why so?
Well, here´s a  side-note:
Exercising fuels your energy makes you more focused and boosts your creativity.

Working out activates your muscles, relaxes your body in positions which require stagnancy (sitting on a laptop) and it prevents you from becoming sleepy or stressed out. Workout releases stress, gives you focus and improves your productivity. (read up more here)

So yes, I'll go for Option B, because I know the opportunity cost of it if I decide not to.

AND NOW YOU, share with us your opinion and share this conversation with a sister.

Q: How do you plan your days, do you have notebooks, journals,
you´re a mind-planner or you use some fancy planning tools?

Leave your answer down in the comments, and share your diversity with us.

Time is money. But more importantly, time is the currency we will never get back until we leave this life inshallah. We all have the same amount of this currency, so it depends only on us what we do with it. Time is a gift from god we need to keep safe by using it wisely.

Until next time,

السلام عليكم

 

 

 

Disclaimer: This is a merely personal view of an individual life. None of this is supposed to reflect or exemplify women, reverts, Muslims or even Islam. Self-identification is not to be seen in relation to a group but merely in relation to oneself. One might share this identity but must not publicly announce its speciality or an imagined community created by such. The sharing or not-sharing of identity (with ethnic, cultural, spiritual, gender-specific, nation or whatever other forms of identification) is neither good nor bad but remains personal and private to oneself. The author is voicing personal opinions and rejects any generalization or speaking-for-ization but rather aims to shed light on one of many diverse stories of one of many diverse individuals in one (or more) of many diverse contexts. Also, the author tends to create grammatically incorrect words to clarify perceived phenomena, opinions or feelings. This blog might include discriminating terms which are emotionally loaded by a long history of oppression and suffrage. Do not read this if you get offended by the cruelty of ignorance. This is still a place for peace and love, the way we all strive to live out our purpose.

 

Value – What is Self-Worth

Value

Means self-worth

value
/ˈvaljuː/
noun
1. the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something. "your support is of great value"
2. principles or standards of behaviour; one's judgement of what is important in life. "they internalize their parents' rules and values" 
Source: google dictionary

I´ve been wanting to define "value" for myself for a long time.

Even just comparing two major yoga channels I watch which are built upon personal brands, I can see how individuals follow individuals and how characters seek characters which are familiar to them.

Understanding, that I am not made to serve everybody.

But that I was chosen to bring value to a specific type of people, which could truly, sincerely and fully benefit from what I can provide.

It's sad to say, but our energies are limited. And others attention spans as well. So I don´t try to fit everyone's mould. If you understand where I come from, you can relate and we share the same values and objectives, let's go with it and for it. But I don´t aim to be your perfect spokesperson.

What is in my authority is simply the drive to understand my value and to value my value. To reach the full capacity of my value and most importantly- speak for myself only.
I can´t say that someone else's experience is the same as mine, however, I can always personally relate to other´s experiences and learn my own lessons for my own life providing my own input.

For years (and somehow still ongoing) I didn´t know my value.

I didn´t know how big it was.

And to be very frank here, I´m not trying to elevate my self up to a level for personal display. But I see many girls that I teach do the same to them as I did. Not analysing what you can offer and what your deepest self is worth, with all knowledge, skills, experiences, attitudes, mindsets and yes also future possibilities. I strongly encourage us to understand that even the not-yet-achievements are our assets. And "opportunity cost" is an actual thing.

If you ain´t got me, you ain't got opportunity A-Z.

Simply speaking, we should treat ourselves (NEVER as a commodity) but as a jewellery. I remember Yasmin Mogahed telling to see yourself as a diamond. Would anyone offer a diamond to someone who says "I REALLY like this one, but maaan I only have one dollar, pound, Euro whatever"? Would you be like "Yeah, no worries you can bring it after some month if you see an opportunity to get in more money"?
NOPE. Thanks.

Don´t offer yourself under value

And yes, I am referring to all the sectors in our lives.
Be it personal relationships and someone refusing to bring in the amount of respect, support, communication, patience and gut it takes to get you ...
Or when I refer to simple job interviews and someone tryna sell you into a "growth opportunity" with half-of-the-price your qualifications are worth entry salary...
Or whether I talk about a friend who only calls you when she wants something but who is like, Can I call you back another time? Hm sorry its really busy right now..? Maybe we can meet the other week? WE  should definitely see each other again? But never gets back to check on you, when YOU have a problem!

All these scenarios, baby if you´d known your worth, you´d be so far by now. But no worries, we´ll catch up,

You see my bouncing off that wall of ignorance for my value.

 

AND NOW YOU, share with us your opinion and share this conversation with a sister.

Q: In what situation did you think "This is not what I deserve. I deserve more!", and what did you do to claim it? / How would you like to deal with it in the future?

Leave your answer down in the comments, and share your diversity with us.

Know your value. Believe in your worth. Define your self-value. Your character determines your self-worth. Believe in the worth you can bring to this earth. God has written it for you a long time ago. Claim it.

 

Until next time,

السلام عليكم

 

 

 

Disclaimer: This is a merely personal view of an individual life. None of this is supposed to reflect or exemplify women, reverts, Muslims or even Islam. Self-identification is not to be seen in relation to a group but merely in relation to oneself. One might share this identity but must not publicly announce its speciality or an imagined community created by such. The sharing or not-sharing of identity (with ethnic, cultural, spiritual, gender-specific, nation or whatever other forms of identification) is neither good nor bad but remains personal and private to oneself. The author is voicing personal opinions and rejects any generalization or speaking-for-ization but rather aims to shed light on one of many diverse stories of one of many diverse individuals in one (or more) of many diverse contexts. Also, the author tends to create grammatically incorrect words to clarify perceived phenomena, opinions or feelings. This blog might include discriminating terms which are emotionally loaded by a long history of oppression and suffrage. Do not read this if you get offended by the cruelty of ignorance. This is still a place for peace and love, the way we all strive to live out our purpose.

 

Inspiration – The myth of creativity

Inspiration

The process of creation, the myth of  creativity

There is a misconception of the word “inspiration”.

We are always told that great people, thriving entrepreneurs and succeeding individuals are always motivated and inspired by anything and everything around them.

Simply put, that´s a big lie.

You can´t say all great achievers are on their top game 24/7. If you believe that, and you apply it to yourself, you lose. Let's take the example of a writer:

If you only write in the feeling of inspiration, you will not create much value in anything. You cannot wait for this feeling. Not doing anything is not inspiring, so how can you expect your non-doing to inspire you?

Writing even if “I don’t feel like it” makes me create much more value than me confidently sitting on my desk with excitement to be inspired and inspiring. My deepest thoughts, when I feel like I have nothing, is often everything I wanted (without knowing that I wanted it).

Being lost can be productive. BUT only if I create. When I feel lost and I write (even about being lost). This might be my vulnerability, the closeness to my inner thoughts and feelings, the fears I tap into to neutralize, the secrets to uncover, the unexpected value that crystallizes. Whatever it may be, it can only come to light and down on my paper (or screen for that matter), if I write in a time “I don’t feel like it”.

Writer Dani Shapiro:

The productive despair, describing the feeling of a deep sea diver when she almost hits the bottom of the ocean floor, that’s when she hits that place and is able to push herself up again from there.

The pan-ultimate place. Feeling the inner-sensor of resistance, that is the place that can bring me up again.

That feeling in that place, where you feel the opposite of comfortable, that is when you can get up again.

Make the time sacred

Be routine-based, ritual-based!

When you are in that place of "I don´t feel like it", it doesn´t matter. Your body already told your mind: We are set up for this, We will do this, And we will do this right. Because everything is “set up” for you as if you would like to achieve something.

How does this being "set up"  look like?

It can look so so different for every single person here. Maybe you like to be in a nice coffee shop? You want to be in a clean room, light some candles maybe? Wear a nice dress and put on some jewellery, some fancy shoes even? Want some tea and fresh fruits on the side?

Just a quick reminder:

Your feelings don´t matter

(at least in the moment they don´t feel like it).

You are either here to see other people succeed, consume, sit down watch what other people do, or

You do it yourself.

Don´t be a consumer, be a creator. 

AND NOW YOU, share with us your opinion and share this conversation with a sister.

Q: What do you like to do to feel set up to create? What do you do to prepare yourself for success? How does the setting look like? What makes you feel most creative to create?

Leave your answer down in the comments, and share your diversity with us.

The myth of creativity affects everyone who wants to achieve greatness. Here is why you need to get rid of it: inspiration is not your hero. You are your only way to success. DO, CREATE, even if you don´t feel like it!

 

Until next time,

السلام عليكم

 

 

 

Disclaimer: This is a merely personal view of an individual life. None of this is supposed to reflect or exemplify women, reverts, Muslims or even Islam. Self-identification is not to be seen in relation to a group but merely in relation to oneself. One might share this identity but must not publicly announce its speciality or an imagined community created by such. The sharing or not-sharing of identity (with ethnic, cultural, spiritual, gender-specific, nation or whatever other forms of identification) is neither good nor bad but remains personal and private to oneself. The author is voicing personal opinions and rejects any generalization or speaking-for-ization but rather aims to shed light on one of many diverse stories of one of many diverse individuals in one (or more) of many diverse contexts. Also, the author tends to create grammatically incorrect words to clarify perceived phenomena, opinions or feelings. This blog might include discriminating terms which are emotionally loaded by a long history of oppression and suffrage. Do not read this if you get offended by the cruelty of ignorance.