1. the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something. "your support is of great value"
2. principles or standards of behaviour; one's judgement of what is important in life. "they internalize their parents' rules and values"
Source: google dictionary
I´ve been wanting to define "value" for myself for a long time.
Even just comparing two major yoga channels I watch which are built upon personal brands, I can see how individuals follow individuals and how characters seek characters which are familiar to them.
Understanding, that I am not made to serve everybody.
But that I was chosen to bring value to a specific type of people, which could truly, sincerely and fully benefit from what I can provide.
It's sad to say, but our energies are limited. And others attention spans as well. So I don´t try to fit everyone's mould. If you understand where I come from, you can relate and we share the same values and objectives, let's go with it and for it. But I don´t aim to be your perfect spokesperson.
What is in my authority is simply the drive to understand my value and to value my value. To reach the full capacity of my value and most importantly- speak for myself only.
I can´t say that someone else's experience is the same as mine, however, I can always personally relate to other´s experiences and learn my own lessons for my own life providing my own input.
For years (and somehow still ongoing) I didn´t know my value.
I didn´t know how big it was.
And to be very frank here, I´m not trying to elevate my self up to a level for personal display. But I see many girls that I teach do the same to them as I did. Not analysing what you can offer and what your deepest self is worth, with all knowledge, skills, experiences, attitudes, mindsets and yes also future possibilities. I strongly encourage us to understand that even the not-yet-achievements are our assets. And "opportunity cost" is an actual thing.
If you ain´t got me, you ain't got opportunity A-Z.
Simply speaking, we should treat ourselves (NEVER as a commodity) but as a jewellery. I remember Yasmin Mogahed telling to see yourself as a diamond. Would anyone offer a diamond to someone who says "I REALLY like this one, but maaan I only have one dollar, pound, Euro whatever"? Would you be like "Yeah, no worries you can bring it after some month if you see an opportunity to get in more money"?
Don´t offer yourself under value
And yes, I am referring to all the sectors in our lives.
Be it personal relationships and someone refusing to bring in the amount of respect, support, communication, patience and gut it takes to get you ...
Or when I refer to simple job interviews and someone tryna sell you into a "growth opportunity" with half-of-the-price your qualifications are worth entry salary...
Or whether I talk about a friend who only calls you when she wants something but who is like, Can I call you back another time? Hm sorry its really busy right now..? Maybe we can meet the other week? WE should definitely see each other again? But never gets back to check on you, when YOU have a problem!
All these scenarios, baby if you´d known your worth, you´d be so far by now. But no worries, we´ll catch up,
You see my bouncing off that wall of ignorance for my value.
AND NOW YOU, share with us your opinion and share this conversation with a sister.
Q: In what situation did you think "This is not what I deserve. I deserve more!", and what did you do to claim it? / How would you like to deal with it in the future?
Leave your answer down in the comments, and share your diversity with us.
Until next time,
Disclaimer: This is a merely personal view of an individual life. None of this is supposed to reflect or exemplify women, reverts, Muslims or even Islam. Self-identification is not to be seen in relation to a group but merely in relation to oneself. One might share this identity but must not publicly announce its speciality or an imagined community created by such. The sharing or not-sharing of identity (with ethnic, cultural, spiritual, gender-specific, nation or whatever other forms of identification) is neither good nor bad but remains personal and private to oneself. The author is voicing personal opinions and rejects any generalization or speaking-for-ization but rather aims to shed light on one of many diverse stories of one of many diverse individuals in one (or more) of many diverse contexts. Also, the author tends to create grammatically incorrect words to clarify perceived phenomena, opinions or feelings. This blog might include discriminating terms which are emotionally loaded by a long history of oppression and suffrage. Do not read this if you get offended by the cruelty of ignorance. This is still a place for peace and love, the way we all strive to live out our purpose.